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Hi. Maybe you're the person who could help me find my way. :)  My youngest is seven. He has Down Syndrome and vaccine-induced autism. Thankfully the autism is much better than it was.... thanks to God and supplements. Anyway I need help. We've been buying disposable diapers all these years. Ouch! Yes, so expensive. Our budget is screeching. Now Jack is just at the very very beginning of perhaps potty training. I am interested in training pants of some kind... maybe with liners? Do you have any suggestions? He weighs around 38 pounds. I have no objection to buying pre-owned. Thanks so much!!!! Ali :)


Yes - I think I can help! Given that you are at the very beginning stages of toilet training, I have several suggestions. We haven't been in your situation, but I have been through the normal length of toilet training with 3 children so far (my reluctant one is still getting wet during the day at age 4).

There are really 4 stages of toilet training - each of which takes time. The first stage is learning to do bathroom while sitting on the toilet - be it solid or liquid. This stage involves no control over functions or predicting the need to go - it is simply learning how to trigger doing bathroom intentionally - rather than just letting it happen. The 2nd stage is learning to always do solid waste in the toilet. Since doing solid involves pushing and effort, it's easier to learn to predict this and successfully get to the toilet than it is for predicting liquid. Then came the very long process of learning to predict when one would do liquid (which can, of course, happen by accident and without effort) - and learning to get to the toilet before it happened. The final stage (and one which lasts quite some time for certain children) is learning to stay dry while sleeping.

For the first stage, done while the child is in diapers, I simply put the child on the toilet each time I change their diaper. This makes it familiar and normal, without putting any pressure for success on the child. My 27 month old son is just beginning this process - and I expect it to last for at least 6-8 months. For the second stage, I like to keep little ones in diapers still - as it's easier to extract solid waste from a diaper than from pull-up training pants. If the child is ready for pull-up training pants at this stage though (able and wanting to take himself to the toilet, or it's more convenient for you to take the child to the toilet in pull-ups), then I switch over and just deal with the solid messes when they happen.

If Jack is ready to pull up his training pants and/or take himself to the bathroom - or it simplifies your life to be able to pull his training pants on and off for toilet training (instead of extracting him from a diaper each time), then you are definitely ready to have training pants on hand.  I would not start off with used training pants, as he is probably going to be using training pants for longer than most trainees.  These training pants are excellent, soft, and comfortable - but will start to wear out after about 2 years (thus, used ones may not have enough life left in them to serve you well).  

In my Ebay message, I described 4 stages of toilet training.  If Jack is in the first stage (just learning to eliminate while sitting on the toilet, but not yet ready to predict when he needs to go), then I would recommend you switch to cloth diapers for day and night.  This will allow him to feel his wetness, while saving you loads of money if he takes his time.  It will also make your life easier when dealing with solid messes.

I typically introduce training pants during the 2nd or 3rd stage for daytime use, but continue using diapers at night. (The second stage is learning to always do solid in the toilet, and the 3rd stage is learning to recognize the need to do liquid before it happens in the pants.)  In the 4th stage, when the youngester is 75% dry during the day and is learning to stay dry while sleeping, I switch over to underwear for daytime and training pants at night.

Given Jack's situation, I think a combination of cloth diapers and training pants will be in your future - both will get a good amount of use (making them worth the initial investment) during his training.

I have toddler cloth diapers and extra-large covers in stock - this is the largest "standard" size.  The toddler diapers will fit up to a 40-45 pound youngster.  The extra large covers will fit 40+ pounds (up to about 50 pounds).  The medium training pants are rated for 30-40 pounds (but easily fit most body shapes up to 45 pounds).  The large training pants are rated for 40+ pounds, but as you can guess will probably fit up through 55 pounds.  All of these are the sizes needed by "average" children - and would be a good starting place for a 38-pound boy.

I also have access to youth diapers - from the flat diapers that you fold and fasten on with covers on top to all-in-ones that simply pull up like the training pants.  These will start fitting him when he is 50 pounds.

Please - feel free to call me!  Motherhood is getting in the way of my writing any more just now, but I'm hear to help you figure out the best options for your family (rather or not I sell them).



You seem like a real expert! I'd love to pick your brain! I have wanted to cloth diaper my now 9 month old from before she was born, but have been afraid to jump in. I really want to do this, though, and am ready. Through my research, bummis seems like a great product. I've got a large stash of a broad mix of flats and prefolds leftover from my baby-hood from my mom that I've been using as burp cloths...can I use those now as diapers and should I strip them? What detergent do you use in general? Can I simply lay a prefold inside a SWW without pin/snapping it around my daughter first? She is 22 lbs at 9 mos...should I buy mediums or go ahead and get larges at this stage? Oh, I would so appreciate some guidance if you find the time! Thank you so much!! Your notes after your listings have already been IMMENSELY useful!
Thanks again,


I just ordered some diapers and covers and they came today. Thanks! I've got a size question. I thought I ordered 2 dozen infant size diapers. The diapers I got are 12x16 inches - which seem pretty huge for such a little bottom. Is this right? Did I order wrong?

Thanks,  Bettina


:-)  Yes - they look huge, but those are indeed the new infant diapers.  They diapers will shrink 5-10% when they have gone through their hot washings, and then you will fold over 2-3 inches of the length and put it behind the little bottom as you diaper.

Head over to YouTube to see a video about how it will work when you fold them onto the baby's bottom.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TLddIUs_kX0

Question about chai:

Recently my mother purchased your drink mix for me as a gift.  While the taste is fine, it is very gritty, and the last 1/4 of the cup is undrinkable there is so much remnant sediment in it.

Several people have tried it, and all have agreed that even though the flavor is good, we just can't get past how grainy it is.

I actually cut it compared to the directions on the side of your bottle:  "2 rounded tablespoons to 1 cup of hot water".    I went down to 1 tablespoon to 1 cup, but to no avail.  I have however been adding it to coffee instead of hot water.  I can attempt to make it with only hot water and not coffee and see if that makes a difference.


The problem is the amount of chai that you are adding to each cup.  For 8 ounces (1 cup) of water, you only need to add 2 tablespoons of mix.  Heat your water almost to boiling, and stir the mix in while it is very hot - this will aide in the dissolving of the powder.  If you are getting a grainy sludge in the bottom 1/4 of the cup, you are adding probably twice as much (or more) as is necessary.

Ah - I understand!  Coffee is a denser liquid than water, so it cannot dissolve as much of the chai mix.  For your coffee, you should only need to add 1 teaspoon, rather than 1 tablespoon.

That will solve the problem!


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